With Mother’s Day right around the corner, I was reflecting on the hardest lessons I’ve learned as a mother. The last year has had a lot of highs and lows but I have to say I’ve learned a ton. Here are some examples:
1. I can do it all, just not at the same time.
Over the last year, there have been a lot of moments of doubt. I definitely wanted to be someone who had it all – career, kids, happy marriage, etc. There were so many times I felt like I was just treading water, like I kept messing up one part of that equation. I learned that when I focus too much on one of those things, the rest get neglected. Every day I have to make hard choices about how I spend my time, who I work with, and who I bring into my house to help me manage it all. I really can do it all, as long as I’m trying not to fit it all in at the exact same time.
2. I might never look the same, and that’s okay.
I’ve always been a pretty confident person, but going to the grocery store with banana crushed into your hair without realizing it is a very humbling experience. There are many things that have changed about my appearance in the last year, some I’ve learned to embrace and some I’m still working on. I’m constantly grateful that because of the changes I have two happy, healthy children and that has led me to more acceptance.
3. Sleep might never come.
Everyone tells you that it’ll get better or soon you’ll be able to sleep at stage x, y, or z. My kids are asleep for the most part. That’s not really the problem. The problem is that I am not asleep. I continue to have nightmares about my kids and a lot of problems actually falling asleep. Granted, this is just me and hopefully not all moms of the world but this is just one of the tough lessons I’ve learned personally. I keep daydreaming that I’m going to be a college student again and get to wake up at noon and watch Lost all day. Sometimes it’s hard to know that I’ll have to wait until my kids are teenagers or in college themselves to indulge in something like that.
I know these sound a bit negative, but the post is about the hardest lessons, and when you look at it that way, experiencing immense life change and turning into a mom is definitely worth it. I never imaged the change to my overall life would be this significant. I do think people try to tell you, “It’ll never be the same again,” but you don’t know that until you’re in a grocery store line with banana in your hair and not one person tells you…